Couples and Relationship Therapy
Therapy in New London, NH and Online NH and MA
Your relationship is struggling
One of you feels so alone and misunderstood.
You’ve tried so much to change this relationship- books, podcasts, advice from friends and family and nothing is working. You try to bring up things to your partner in a neutral way but it inevitably spirals into a conflict and before you know it you’re back in that same awful place of disconnection that seems to happen over and over again without resolution. You’re told you’re being too critical, too defensive, not listening enough. You worry so much about your relationship but to you it seems you are the only one fighting for it. But it’s the fighting that keeps making everything worse and now there are a lot of issues it seems you can’t even talk about. Everyday it seems more and more like your partner is a roommate and you miss the times where you felt a strong connection and passion towards each other. You just want to find a way to get through to your partner and feel heard.
The other of you is just tired of the fighting and feeling rejected.
You feel there is nothing you can say that will make this better or change their mind so you might as well keep it in and go away. At least eventually the storm passes when you shut down, but deep down you also feel lonely and unheard. You’re told you need to open up more, share your feelings- but this is so hard for you. You feel like you are constantly walking on eggshells to make your partner happy and you’re tired. You worry you won’t be seen as good enough and the seemingly constant criticisms are tough to handle. You do care quite a lot but if the fighting continues you worry this relationship won’t make it. Every time you have to go away to calm down it feels a bit worse and you’re not sure there is space to really be yourself here.
My name is Ashley and I can help
My name is Ashley Williams LICSW and I help couples and individuals who are stuck to find a pathway back to connection, love and stability. I am an active therapist who will jump in and help you organize and make sense of the cycles you are getting caught in and develop a greater understanding of not only your partner but yourself. I am patient, validating, and empathetic, but I will also challenge you at times and help you see where your growth points are. I work hard on this being a safe, real relationship.
I use research based methods for couples therapy including the Gottman Method, EFT, and the Developmental Model
Contact me for a free counseling consultation
I know it can feel like a big step to call a therapist, but I’ll make it easy. We’ll spend 15-minutes on the phone and I’ll let you know how or if I can help. If I am not the right person, I’ll do my best to get you to the right person. Contact me at 603-563-0354 or email me at practice@ashleywilliamslicsw.com for your free 15-minute phone consultation for therapy in NH or online. My specialties include couples therapy, childhood emotional neglect, developmental trauma, individuals struggling with relationships and boundaries.
In-person and remote options
My office is conveniently located in New London, NH.
Can’t make it to the office? No worries- I’ve got you covered with teletherapy for clients in both NH and MA.